Any time you’re invited to share in someone’s special moment, it’s a big deal.
The last thing you want to do is commit some sort of faux pas and embarrass yourself—or worse—do something that takes the focus away from the person being celebrated.
A bridal shower is a delightful experience, and it’s an event that comes with a few expectations you should know about first.
Here’s everything etiquette-related you need to be aware of when attending a bridal shower as a guest.
RSVP ASAP
No matter what the event is, it’s just polite to RSVP as soon as you know you’re able to attend the event.
This gives the host an idea of how many people to expect and frees them up to start planning and putting the event together.
If you can’t attend the shower, thank them for inviting you, and include your regrets about not being able to make it in a thoughtful note.
Bridal Shower Gift
Traditional bridal shower gifts are items the couple can use in their home: From beautiful to practical, anything goes.
You probably know the bride-to-be pretty well, and if so, use that first-hand knowledge to help you pick out a gift.
Registries always make gift-giving easier, so check to see if there is one first
before setting out and purchasing your gift, unless of course, you have an idea for the perfect one….
If there is a registry, the registry info is usually indicated on the invitation.
Expect to pay anywhere from $25 to $75 for the gift. If you’re unsure about the item you purchased, be sure to include a gift receipt as well.
Bridal Shower Dress Code
It’s rare that you’ll be invited to a formal “black-tie” bridal shower, and most are semi-casual or semi-formal.
Pay attention to the invitation. If there’s a dress code or certain attire expectations—maybe you’ll be painting or learning some other type of messy craft during the shower—you’ll find that information on the invitation.
If the invitation doesn’t have any attire recommendations, it’s always a safe bet to dress in your Sunday best.
For those looking for something to wear to a bridal shower or even just seeking some inspo, check out Bella Bridesmaids. They have a gorgeous selection of dresses, jumpsuits and more.
Finally, when deciding what to wear, don’t forget to consider the venue.
If the bridal shower is outdoors, you may need to bring an extra layer, just in case.
Footwear too; wear appropriate shoes!
Cobblestone, gravel, and grass are no fun to attempt to walk across wearing stiletto heels, and you don’t want to be remembered (that’s the girl who fell down!) for a dramatic tumble you took on the way back from refilling your champagne flute.
Day of the Bridal Shower
Arrive at the location right on time, or within the first 15 minutes of when the event begins.
If you know other people who are attending, great! This takes a bit of the edge off any initial awkwardness.
If you don’t know anyone else, introduce yourself to the other guests. Chances are you’ll have heard some of their names before, and now’s your chance to put a face to the name.
Conversations can include how each person knows the bride-to-be and other safe topics related to her.
If the host seems like they’ve got a lot on their plate, offer to help—without being too overbearing.
Bridal showers usually have ‘elevated’ snacks that include cheese plates, cupcakes, other finger foods, and of course—champagne.
Bridal shower games are common and easy to get the hang of. Often they’re themed and involve bingo, bride and groom-related trivia, and more.
If there are games or activities planned, participate in them and have fun!
Remain at the event at least until the conclusion of the gift opening.
Other Bridal Shower Etiquette Considerations
Typically, bridal showers are reserved for females only. If it’s a coed occasion, the event is usually referred to as a Wedding Shower. If in doubt, be sure to clarify with the bride-to-be before arriving at the shower with your new beau.
If you’re part of the bridesmaid crew and all want to pitch in on a gift together, go for it! This is perfectly acceptable.
Finally, when taking group photos, get permission from everyone in the shot before posting any pics to social media.
After the Event
Proper etiquette involves following up with the host with a phone call, a thank you note or a text within the week. Never underestimate the impact that something as seemingly small as a thank-you note has on someone else.
Conclusion:
Bridal showers are fun light-hearted celebrations. If you follow these guidelines and remember to have fun, you have nothing to worry about.
